Girl talk🗣️: Why you should always be self-assured

  

Happy new year girls!

I hope you have your vision boards and goals ready because 2023 is THAT year.

When I was alone with my thoughts, I came to the realization that people try to undermine you when they feel threatened by you or intimidated by your spirit. They criticize you and you become a victim if you are insecure. No one is flawless, but we may learn to accept and embrace our imperfections. When you accept your shortcomings, no one can use them against you or try to humiliate you; even if they do, they'll appear foolish when they see how self-assured you are. 

“If you know who you are deep down, if you are aware of your being then whatever people say or do to you should not affect your cognition of who you are. It cannot affect because you are well aware of who you are.”

 

   This reminds me of my younger years, when we frequently visited the studio to shoot fresh family photos for the living room. A new photographer was working that day at the studio, and while he was carrying out his job, he continued grousing about how I wasn't photogenic. When I arrived home, I quickly looked up the word in my dictionary because he was complaining so vehemently and I was baffled by his response. When I finally understood what the word meant, I felt terrible because I assumed I was flawed. 

Since that particular scene constantly appeared in my head, I generally shied away from pictures. As I got older, got a phone, and learnt how to take my own pictures, I discovered that I was actually photogenic. A whole spec. And I decided to never let the words of others make me doubt myself. Now, you could occasionally see me grinning while viewing videos or photos of myself on my phone or even grinning at the mirror. In retrospect, I felt bad for the younger me since my mother wouldn't have been pestered so much to let me be a child model for various businesses if I wasn't actually photogenic.

      What I'm trying to say is that when others talk bad about you, they're usually projecting their negativity, because they can't be you they try to bring you down or because they're intimidated by you they attempt to break your spirit or your morale. People will always have opinions, and if you spend the majority of your life trying to appease them, you will be unhappy. I still don't understand why the photographer kept complaining though, but I know he was ill-mannered and unprofessional. 

     Nothing can faze you when you make God your foundation. Simply by knowing that God is with you, you'll be strolling around like you just won the lottery. They become even more displeased when they notice that you are unfazed because it is obvious that their plan fell through. 

   The article's main message is to never compromise your values in order to appease others or fit in. You're obviously in the wrong place if you're too much. Don't let other people's thoughts and deeds define who you are. You decide who you want to be. Walk away from situations where you’re not respected because you are the prize no matter what, you must respect and love yourself in order for others to respect you. Be who you are without apology; I always think that's your superpower. 

 Therefore, you must believe you're all that and you're THAT GIRL the next time someone tries to says crap about you or says "she isn't even all that." Give them a lovely smile in response, or remain silent depending on the circumstance, move with confidence and kindness. Do everything with grace, as the high value woman you are, and don't let the ugly in others make you lose sight of your own beauty.

*Note:I don’t own the rights to the picture used in this article